Does this sound like bad parenting to you? I need as many answers as possible?
crazey_sissy asked:
14 yr old girl, has a crush on an 18 yr old. The girls brother is friends with the 18 year old, and sometimes spends the night at the older guys house. Mothers of the kids are friends. Girls mom lets the girl spend the night at the 18 yr olds house as long as her brothers there and the 18 yr olds mom is there. Does this sound like bad parenting to you? Just out of curiosity. Thanks!
Howard Stocker
14 yr old girl, has a crush on an 18 yr old. The girls brother is friends with the 18 year old, and sometimes spends the night at the older guys house. Mothers of the kids are friends. Girls mom lets the girl spend the night at the 18 yr olds house as long as her brothers there and the 18 yr olds mom is there. Does this sound like bad parenting to you? Just out of curiosity. Thanks!
Howard Stocker
September 20th, 2009 at 4:27 am
Lucy Jaramillo
A bit wierd but I don’t think it alone constitues bad parenting unless the girl is allowed to sleep in the same room as the boys, then that could be bad since 18year old boys want sex and a girl sleeping in the same room my tempt him to do something he othewise wouldn’t do.
September 20th, 2009 at 7:58 am
Luis Wages
Sounds weird. I wouldn’t allow it.
September 22nd, 2009 at 2:00 am
Jenny Gordon
I say no sounds fine to me as long as nothing is going on and the parent is watching and keeping everything “PG” I see no problem with it.
September 23rd, 2009 at 8:55 am
David Houghton
I don’t know about BAD parenting, because to each his or her own and only they know how well the child is being supervised, but I wouldn’t let my child spend the night with a child of another gender after or around the age of puberty, especially if I knew one was attracted to the other.
September 25th, 2009 at 5:50 am
Frausto
I don’t think so. I think it’s just a matter of trust for the girl, the 18 year old brother and boy and the boy’s parent.
September 26th, 2009 at 3:46 am
Victor Guffey
Not bad parenting just some wrong thinking on the parents part. These days anything can happen and it does younger and younger. Its just asking for trouble. Although maybe she has trust in her daughter and that is a good thing too.
September 28th, 2009 at 4:47 pm
Ethel Swinson
Yes, it’s bad parenting. The parents set the rules and if they allow that little girl to sleep over with the boys what’s that telling her? It’s telling her that there are no boundaries. She needs boundaries. Boys and girls do not stay overnight together unless they are relatives or the whole family is staying over for some reason. Is an adult staying awake all night to make sure nothing happens? This little girl is not being well taken care of and watched out for by her parents. She is being put in harm’s way. And, her brother is being given the task of watching out for her. How would he feel if something happened to his little sis? Very lax of the parents. I’m appalled!!
September 30th, 2009 at 1:30 pm
David Kissinger
depends on the brother…if the brother is really trustworthy and protective and honorable to and towards his sister, i might allow it. on the otherhand, if the brother isn’t a 4.0 student on the choir team, well, i’d have to say a big fat “no.”
October 1st, 2009 at 3:36 pm
Beulah Dillon
Not bad parenting, but odd parenting. Thats a little weird for me.
October 4th, 2009 at 2:55 am
Allen Flinn
Its not something that I would allow. Bad parenting unless they are very strict about sleeping arrangements.,
October 7th, 2009 at 4:25 am
Daisy Craver
nope. its normal, you can’t just run away from these things…………your kids will grow up no matter what you do, all you can really do is advise her, its not like you can reasonably dictate her life or monitor her 24\7. you must instill proper values at a very young age all while alowing her to mature at a normal pace.
of course i’m assuming they sleep in seperate rooms.
and i know personally i would knock a tooth if one of my friends were to even touch my sister in a sexual way.
when she starts seeing a new guy, the day i find out they are dating i pull him aside, place a condom in his hand and tell him “if you use it i’ll knock you out. if you don’t i’ll bend your fucking knees back”, i remain polite yet am very serious, and he better understand that worst case scenario, he gets her pregnate and runs off, he wouldn’t get far.
October 10th, 2009 at 3:29 am
Craig Cortes
Adding hormones in with hormones does not sound good to me! No disrespect to the 18 year old boy , but boys are boys, and girls @ that age will do anything to get their crush. The fact that her brother is there does not matter, because in the little world of teenage love – where there is a will there is a way!
October 12th, 2009 at 10:19 am
Nathan Carbaugh
OK so i read this 3 times to be sure i understood before i answered and no i dont think it is bad parenting per say the mothers are friends and the brother is friends with this boy as well, as long as they are not sleeping next to each other and supervision is there i dont see a big deal although the crush thing may concern me i guess , i would be having a living room style sleep over with mom or dad in there on the sofa to be watching the teens for sure though
October 15th, 2009 at 8:50 am
Joseph Seaver
well you dont know how well the families know each other do you?
and im sure the mom is making sure the girl isnt sleeping in the same room…
and if the brother is there i can almost guarantee he wouldnt let her do anything with him
those parents are making sure someone is there with them… thats called being responsible.. they arent just letting her do it
bad parenting would be “oh it will just be you and him? oh ok well use a condom!”.
October 17th, 2009 at 11:28 pm
Patrick Woo
i dont think i would alow it if i had childern and my mum would not like me doing that
October 18th, 2009 at 7:56 am
Howard Benavidez
Maybe ignorant parenting. I would never allow this.
October 21st, 2009 at 2:56 pm
Joe Charlton
I’m not sure. Honestly, an 18 year old guy is not interested in a 14 year old. Unless he’s some asshole who wants to have sex with her just for the sake of it. But personally, I wouldn’t allow my daughter to spend the night with two 18 year old guys, no matter the relationship. She needs to have her eyes set on someone close to her age. A 14 year old is thinking about a school dance. An 18 year old is going off to college.
October 23rd, 2009 at 7:37 pm
Georgia Caskey
its more dirty situation that u had written. it sounds more awkward to me.