Single/ lone parenting, is there others that find it can become so lonely?
smrobinson1987 asked:
Hi I am a single mummy from Essex UK, my boy is 2 and now in playgroup. I can’t seem to find Mr. Right. Or someone that wants to be apart of both mine AND my sons life. I have recently began to feel slightly depressed, as life is sometimes so lonely! I have siblings and friends but they have their own families and lives now. I find it particularly hard in the evenings when my little one is in bed and theres just no one to talk to. My son is what keeps me together – he is my everything.
So my question goes out to other lone parents, Mummies, or Daddies. How do you cope with the lonliness?
Christopher Widener
Hi I am a single mummy from Essex UK, my boy is 2 and now in playgroup. I can’t seem to find Mr. Right. Or someone that wants to be apart of both mine AND my sons life. I have recently began to feel slightly depressed, as life is sometimes so lonely! I have siblings and friends but they have their own families and lives now. I find it particularly hard in the evenings when my little one is in bed and theres just no one to talk to. My son is what keeps me together – he is my everything.
So my question goes out to other lone parents, Mummies, or Daddies. How do you cope with the lonliness?
Christopher Widener
November 1st, 2009 at 7:55 am
Jerry Martell
here my email address if you want to get to know a great guy!!
November 3rd, 2009 at 5:56 am
Isabel Maze
I’m not a single parent but I do feel your pain to a degree. My husband is in the military and he’s deployed–a lot. Out of our son’s sixteen months he’s been here for seven. That’s okay though. You get through it. I was always happy with knowing that he would soon be home.
Your situation is different though, I understand that. If I were you, I would just keep busy. It’s really surprising how many people you come across when you are involved in play groups, volunteering, and other community activities. You don’t actively have to look for Mr. Right. Most of the time [from my single friends] he ends up being Mr. Right Now and that’s okay. Trust me, if you just keep busy, try to meet other single parents and just keep an eye out you’ll find him.
I truly admire single parents. There is not a doubt in my mind that you guys are the hardest working parents ever. Sometimes though you just have to roll with the cards you are dealt but trust me sooner or later without even realizing it, Mr. Right will walk right into your life. Until then just keep busy and stay active. Best of Luck!!
November 4th, 2009 at 6:35 am
Christian Gemmell
I am not a lonely parent, but want to comfort you the best I can. I saw many married couples that so lonely even they have someone with them. You are not lonely if you have Jesus in your heart. In the dept of sadness and loneliness, He is there for you, as a friend, a father and everything you ever need.
Not everyone is for you, even if that someone you like very much for you. In God’s will there is a perfect someone that already blessed for you. Time has to be just right. Happiness of having someone is a happiness of have someone you are happy to be with. God is a perfect God. If you are a child of God of course He is always going to give you the best of everything. Just be patient because there is someone perfect for you is going to come to you, maybe soon.
November 4th, 2009 at 12:54 pm
Ella Blackwell
I’m a single mom and am now having trouble with the new boyfriend. He tries to discipline my kids and argues with my 7 year old! I’m about ready to be alone again!
November 4th, 2009 at 11:39 pm
Cheryl Kirkman
I tend to occupy myself with mind games, cleaning house, getting on the computer, calling friends and family, and planning for the next few days. It is a lonely job (being a single parent), but well worth it. I have the say in my families lives now with out having to get crap from the wife.
November 5th, 2009 at 1:11 pm
Brittany Leech
Don’t let the lonliness in. The easiest way to fight it is to keep it at bay… find something to get interested in. It could be taking pix of your son, and making scrapbooks. It could be the internet, it could be needlework – anything. But actively seek out an interest that you can do alone, so that when your support group is not available, you can keep your mind busy.
I can tell you it will get better, as they get older. It has for me. Either way, you won’t find Mr. Right until you’re comfortable and secure in your current situation, knowing that you are okay just the way you are. And you are okay, just the way you are. You are a rockstar in my book – it’s hard as hell to raise a kid alone, and I admire any parent who rises to that challenge.
November 6th, 2009 at 10:28 pm
Robyn Osullivan
Hello, brand spanking new to this online community thing! I am also a single mum to a 2 year old and have a happy filled life until approximately 7.30 then I slip into being lonely and like you begin to feel a tad depressed. I wonder if I want a Mr Right or whether I just want someones/anyones company. I have tried allsorts to keep my evenings active but appreciate that if you are a people person it is hard to keep talking to yourself and the same four walls! Like you I’ll be checking out other people’s ideas x I hope you know you’re not alone x
November 9th, 2009 at 6:38 am
Lorraine Proffitt
I’m new to this group . It’s nice to know there really is someone else in my situation. This is what works for me….
Running. I know it doesn’t sound very appealing at all. When I get down in the dumps, depressed, or just frustrated I run and afterwards I feel sooooo much better.
I started when my wife left me and my 2 children. I actually began running with the hopes of my wife finding me more attractive and coming back. I soon realized she wasn’t coming back but kept running because it made me feel better about myself. Now am in great shape and feel awsome! I guess I actually have to thank her for that!
About the lonliness itself. I’m still trying to find the answer. The best I’ve heard is “Don’t look! Someone will come along when you least expect it! If you look, that’s how you get hurt and frustrated!”
All the best!
P.s. I’m at 10 mi. per day now.
November 12th, 2009 at 6:30 am
Jeff Sifuentes
I’m in the same boat. I’m still trying to figure out how to cope. I don’t sleep much. I guess I’m not coping at all. But I do know that there’s no woman out there worth compromising my daughter’s well being for, including her own mother.