Comments on: What is your read on the statement “Consider adoption, a loving alternative to parenting.”?

By: adkwolf

adkwolf — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 12:41:13 +0000

That is outrageous. Adoption is PARENTING. In some ways it’s more challenging than parenting babies born to you, because even small babies grieve for birth parents. There re also issues of helping the child feel loved and understand that the birth parents choice to not raise a child wasn’t because the child was bad. ADOPTION IS AN ALTERNATIVE WAY TO EXPAND A FAMILY not an alternative to parenting!!!!

By: Heather H

Heather H — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 09:57:44 +0000

Sounds like we should all be giving our kids away for adoption!

How ridiculous. I’m with Tish, Kerchiing!!!$$$$$$$$$$$$$

coercive tactic to make money off vulnerable people

By: spydermomma

spydermomma — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 09:21:56 +0000

I don’t like it at all, for the reasons lots of others have said. To me it kinda makes it sound as if a woman who was considering reliquishing her child for adoption could not possibly be a good and loving parent — so that her “loving alternative” would be to adopt. Probably they didn’t >consciously< mean to imply that, but I think that their subconscious thoughts came through.

By: AdoreHim

AdoreHim — Sat, 29 Nov 2008 09:55:14 +0000

I don’t like this at all- parenting is a loving alternative as well. What I really hope they meant by it was that adoption is the only other loving alternative. You should actually call them on it- because it does make it sound like parenting your own child is not a loving alternative. Abortion definitely isn’t loving- but parenting is. Maybe if you asked them about it, they would change this statement- because if I was a birth mom, it turn me off, and if I was a man and woman looking to adopt it would turn me off too.

EDIT- and for those who say that it is not loving to give your child away to someone else, I have this to say- so if your birth mom could no way raise you, you think it would be better to abort? I am an adoptee and also have adopted 2 kids- and since our 3 birth moms could not raise us, it very loving and selfless to place for adoption. If I got pregnant and could not raise my child, do you think I would sacrifice my child on the altar of abortion? NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By: Isabel A

Isabel A — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 04:51:07 +0000

You know, call me crazy, but I just don’t think it’s very loving to give your child away to strangers.

It could be a practical option or a convenient option or even a painful option. I just wouldn’t think to pair the word loving with relinquishment.

Marketing these days is something else.

By: Momof2!

Momof2! — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 00:26:20 +0000

I would personally take it as meaning a loving option if you already DIDN’T want to parent.
It doesn’t suggest to me that parenting isn’t loving, but I know that nobody could take my children away from me, whatever the tagline said.

By: lahdh4

lahdh4 — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 16:49:35 +0000

beyond sickening

By: littleJaina

littleJaina — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 00:54:09 +0000

I don’t read this statement as implying that parenting is NOT loving. Rather, they are saying that you can either parent your child OR you can give it up for adoption and BOTH are loving options. I think the adoption folks are trying to just take abortion out of the equation all together. Maybe if we stop reminding girls they legally can get abortions, they won’t do them.

I think it’s truly awful that anyone believes abortion is anything less than murder (except in life threatening situations) and that honestly believe adoption is worse. After all, if an adopted person truly believes they’d be better off aborted, there are lots of high bridges in the world they can jump from.

By: Andraya

Andraya — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 06:43:46 +0000

I much prefer the statement. “Consider abortion, a loving alternative to adoption.”

Loving alternative to parenting? IMHO this implies that choosing to parent is not a loving choice and that sickens me. COERCE MUCH?

By: lauriejbaker

lauriejbaker — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 19:22:54 +0000

Huh?? I thought the loving thing to do when you have a child IS to be a parent!

Talk about pulling out all the stops. Trying to twist and guilt women who are already feeling scared and confused is so wrong.